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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it because they are used to being put down?

I see this in sports, academics, dance, anything. Instead of encouraging and cheering, I often hear of kids putting others down. [/quote]

Or their parents are always putting others down and/or judging others.[/quote]

I feel like some level of boasting/comparison is normal in kids, but you can tell the ones who aren't being checked on this at home. There was a kid at our elementary school who was very bright and good at sports but had the rudest attitude about other kids and I frequently heard her putting down kids by saying they "didn't work hard enough" or weren't "putting in the time." That's a weird way for an 8 or 9 year old to frame the fact that some kids are more successful for others, and I felt confident this was a message she was getting at home (from parents I knew to also be quite boastful and competitive). Thankfully we're no longer at the same school but I can only imagine that got worse with time.[/quote]

+1.  7yo DD actually came home upset yesterday that her two supposed "best freinds" had criticized her at soccer, that she wasn't good or working hard enough.  This was at a once a week after school club that is supposed to be non-competitive and fun.  The two friends play on a team outside the school as well, I'm actually not sure why they are bothering with this after school club to begin with.  They weren't in it until this spring and DD was having a lot more fun until they joined.  But whenever we see one of the families the dad is constantly talking about his kids soccer skills, how they work to improve their "hustle", etc. so it's not surprising I guess.  It sucks though.[/quote]

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