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[quote=Anonymous]I tend to be pretty strict, but since this was apparently mutually agreed play and not violence/bullying (which I would come down hard on), I don’t think discipline at home is necessary.  I would have a serious discussion supporting the school’s rules about roughhousing, as well as talking more generally about where and when it is and isn’t acceptable.

However, there will be times when you will need to discipline your child and you need to consider your options.  Here are a few possibilities that might give you some ideas:

Take away something positive:
dessert/treat
allowance
favorite toy
fun activity (game time, outing, playground time, playdate, etc.)
etc.

Add something negative:
Apologize
Write lines 
Write/explain verbally/draw picture about why shat he did was wrong and/or how he’ll do better in the future 
Do chores
Earlier bedtime
etc.

While I agree with posters that withholding food isn’t a good idea, if a child throws a fuss and refuses to eat, I have no problem in accepting their choice, putting their food in the dinner, and saving it for when they decide they’re ready to eat it.  Assuming something was served that they had been able to eat in the past, I don’t think it’s necessary to play short order cook to accommodate their whims.

I know you said you don’t like to use time-outs, by which I’m assuming you mean the punitive “sit in the corner and think about what you’ve done” type.  There is a secondary version you might want to consider:  In our house, in addition to using time-outs as negative consequences, we would also employ them as constructive preventative measures.  If someone was getting upset and I was afraid they were about to get themselves in trouble, I’d tell them they needed to take a time-out and go into their room for some quiet time alone to give themselves a chance to calm down.  I also gave myself time-outs.  When I felt my temper was about to snap, I’d make sure my kids were situated safely for a few minutes, and then I’d tell them, “Mommy needs a time-out to calm down a little,” and then I’d go into another room for a few minutes, distract myself (while keeping an ear open for trouble), give my emotions and adrenaline a chance to recover, then go back when I was calmer, more rational, and ready to handle any problems constructively.[/quote]

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