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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our town has a travel soccer team that's coached by volunteer dads.  The problem is, each year, there is no movement on the team because the moms of the players have formed a clique, and have said openly that they don't want to change up the team (like, ever) since they all enjoy hanging out together so much. This year, the kids are 6th graders and some of them have started growth spurts and some have not.  I went to the tryouts, and a few kids who are new to the town were phenomenal players- they looked older (they weren't), and they were stronger and just better.  The "evaluators" (aka the dads) didn't even bother to watch them much, and lo and behold, the team was announced and there were no changes to the roster.  For the 4th year in a row.

FWIW this doesn't happen with any other grade's travel team- there is always at least some movement from year to year, based on kids working hard in the off season to earn a spot and other kids focusing on other interests.  This is unique to this grade of boys.

What if anything can the other parents do about this? And I guess since I know the answer is "nothing" since it's volunteer run (and no, the coaches are fully against other parents coming to help volunteer beyond their clique of volunteer dads- I know this because my husband, a former college soccer player, volunteered to help and they refused), I'm mostly curious how common this is in other areas?  Like, can't these moms and dads have their social lives even if their kids aren't on the same soccer team?? Like I don't care if I'm not friends with these moms, they can hang out without me all they want.  But why does that mean they'd exclude my kid from the team, if my kid is objectively better than theirs? (This isn't even sour grapes about my own kid, at least not much- he accepted an offer on a team across town that's actually a much better team, it's just less convenient than the team down the street that his friends are on!)[/quote]

Does this town really have only one travel team or one youth soccer org running leagues? Who do the volunteers answer to? How easy or difficult is it to start up a new team under the same umbrella org? What are the rec options like? I think you need to take deep breath. There must be another way for athletic kids to play competitive soccer with other athletic kids. Let these people have their crappy social league that will fall apart in two years.[/quote]

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