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[quote=Anonymous]Is it "normal" is a tough question.
Is it acceptable? No
Is it common for most kids around that age? No.
Is it something a kid might try to see if they can get away with it? Perhaps, if discipline at home hasn't been strict and the child isn't certain what the limits are.
Is it bad enough to be an emergency that means the child immediately needs the involvement of police or a psych hospital? Not right away, necessarily, unless someone is in danger of getting seriously injured.

At first I would suggest thinking about your discipline so far. Have you set consistent limits including that physical violence is unacceptable? Are there immediate and memorable consequences for bad behavior? (Consequences are not necessarily physical punishment but would include something unpleasant like loss of privileges, early bedtime, writing about what she did & should have done instead, or extra chores, etc). Does she know that you mean what you say when you give her instructions, rules, or limits?

If not, spend a few weeks to a few months focusing on getting the basics on track. You might need to read some books about parenting this age group, take a class, or get advice from parents you trust with kids slightly older than yours.

Since you may have 12 years of a habit of not listening to your limits, it could take a while to impose new habits. It will be difficult, and unpleasant, and she will act like she hates you. It's also almost certainly worth doing now before she gets older and her potential misbehavior gets even worse.[/quote]

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