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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Check out the FIFTY AND OVER forum.  There' s a thread there about older parents with young kids and there are many parents who had kids in their 40's or close.

We are 47 and 51 with 17 mo twins.  And we couldn't be happier.[/quote]

Again, I suspect the husban's commentary isn't about the physical ability. He may NOT want to be in his late 40s with a small child. It's great that you couldn't be happier, but for some people, that's really a horrifying idea.[/quote]

I understand.  But if that's the reasoning, then he should have said something when they were younger and he should have established before they were married what his deal-breaker issues were.  When we became engaged in our late 30's, I made it a point to establish that I wanted to have children even if we were older parents.  My spouse had to think about this (had never considered having children before because we were "older") but agreed.  It would have been a deal-breaker for me.

If he put this out as an issue up front, they could have discussed this.  The implication from OP's original post is that he's been silently suffering (or passive aggressively suffering) and only recently started to become vocal about his objections.  [/quote]

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