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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wondered if there would be a little networking benefit when we entered private, but [b]my kid seems to have a knack for being besties with the solidly middle class kids. [/b]There does seem to be an inner circle of rich kids with powerful parents, along with some moms who are UMC but seem desperate for their kids to remain close friends with the power players. My kid is friendly with the circle (and with most other kids), but not an inner circle kid.[/quote]

My middle class kid is highly charismatic, funny, smart, athletic. He became close with the inner circle of rich kids with powerful parents at a feeder private. Went on to an Ivy, currently a junior, and is straight in the center of the same circle there.

Our second son is very different. He doesn't gravitate to this crowd and neither is he embraced by them.

You either have "it" or you don't with the high flying crowd. And I'm not saying that having "it" is a good thing. It's not who I am and it's not where I would choose to be but you "get you you get" with regards to kids.

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Just curious, does your son date within that crowd? Has he married into that crowd?

I believe that it’s easier for boys to break through socially than girls as women and teen girls act as gatekeepers when interacting with other women and teen girls. It’s that whole protecting resources and access to men who have said resources.[/quote]

Yes, he's dated two girls: one in high school and one in college. [b]Both from that crowd.[/b] Not currently dating anyone (he's a junior in college) and not married.

I totally agree that it is easier to break in as a guy. He's been viewed as very datable by girls in that set as he's handsome and kind and down-to-earth. Some of the guys are jerks (shocking, i know).  It remains to be seen if he's ultimately viewed as marriage material. Although he's hopefully going to be gainfully employed and reasonably successful as well. [/quote]

Confused - which crowd are you talking about? He is trying to break in? I don't get it. [/quote]

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