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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks everyone.

We have a family history of alcoholism, on my side as well as on DH's. And, in all honesty, I did not handle this situation very well. I always thought I'd be so much better when the time came! I wouldn't say I was horrible (no yelling or outright 'punishment', but there were consequences less freedom during spring break).

I like the approach of having her do research on alcoholism. [/quote]

OP I am the person who said they did not punish at 16 but had big talks instead. My mother died of alcoholism, so I completely understand. But projecting my mother's disease on my children, and my trauma on my children, does not do anyone any favors but perpetuate trauma. I have SO many times explained that they are more prone to addiction based on our family history. Its very hard for a kid, a teen to grasp that. My teen has even thrown back "you just say that because your mother was an alcoholic" (ouch) and I say, no I just want you alive and healthy. If my mother died of another disease, we would be taking precautions for that instead. Its so hard with teens especially when our past experiences come into play.[/quote]

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