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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell us about these many situations where you’ve seen teachers and yet you’re not a teacher. Doubt it.

It’s the PARENTS fault. Parenting has shifted massively. They are afraid of making their kids sad so they give them what they want. They allow kids to negotiate everything—bedtime, meals, screen time. I’ve seen kids in stores whine because they want a toy and the parent gets it for them so they don’t have to hear the whining. Nowadays strollers have babies holding phones instead of looking at the world. Parents put on videos instead of reading to their kids. It’s absolutely insane. I was in another country over spring break and didn’t see a single child—baby, toddler, elementary school aged kid, even tween—with a device in their hands. Not one. And over here? It’s common place. No more delayed gratification. No more “you better listen to your teacher,” now it’s “why did the teacher yell at you? I’ll go talk to them.”

It’s really really bad now. [/quote]

I also think the expectation has changed for parents.  Having a kid in public having moments where they are being corrected is how they learn how to be people in the world.  However, the expectation in this country is that they don't break down and you don't discipline which is completely unrealistic.  Of course parents turn to screens to solve the problem!

I felt such an intense sense of calm and relief when I was in Europe because of how the way the everyday passerby responds to true parenting vs. here.  Temper tantrums aren't the sign of a spoiled child, they are a sign of a kid hitting a limit for the first time.  You let the temper tantrum be the end result of the engagement, they learn that's the limit, you soothe in the moment to prevent the glares and being told off by random people, the lesson is lost and eventually the kid is going to hit that limit again.

I am honestly feel so lucky we got to go to Europe a few times when my kid was young (thanks to a few friends getting married all right in a row).  It gave us huge leaps in positive behavior and gave us a bit of perspective on how much we should be paying attention to standard American views on parents/parenting.  Most parents, don't get that luxury.[/quote]

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