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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is so the story of my life. I met a woman at the school who seemed like she really liked me. We worked together intensively on a volunteer project and then another one.
It then became clear that she acts like that to EVERYONE especially if she thinks you’ll be helpful somehow.
Like “do you have plans for spring break?” And she is super vague… turns out she’s going to London! I feel like a friend would want to talk about that. Or then she announced that she wouldn’t be meeting me at the gym anymore because she got a job. Never talked about the job hunting process or anything related to the job, or why she wanted it in the first place (her husband makes $$$$).
Just a lack of being real.[/quote]

That is not a lack of being real.  You could be talking about me, I don't like to discuss trips in detail with people.  I'm sometimes afraid it comes across like bragging--and some places I've been to so many times for work or whatever they don't even strike me as particularly interesting.

My job hunting isn't something I discuss with anyone except DH.  He makes $$$$, and that is not pertinent to my career.  Not everyone discusses every little detail of their lives with everyone around them.

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I completely understand this, I do this too with most people. but I was under the impression that we were becoming close friends. When it turned out we were friendly acquaintances the whole time. Just a different level of friendship than what I was hoping for.[/quote]

I guess my point (that I didn't make very well) is that it doesn't preclude that I am or trying to become close friends.  There are myriad other topics that I am or will discuss.  Traveling maybe if/when I know the other person/family travels the same way or locations so I know it won't be taken the wrong way.  You can see from the travel forum here that this is a huge continuum of travel experience and desires around here.   :) [/quote]

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