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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD 16 isn’t having the best month or two. Her grades are not fantastic, she didn’t get the summer job she wanted, there’s some friendship drama, general stress about life, etc. But it’s gotten worse the past few days. She’s said that she “doesn’t care about anything” and that she “hates existing”. Throughout this whole rough patch I’ve been trying to talk it all out, mostly with encouragement or briefish convos. But I think maybe it’s time for something more intense. Like a big, long, intense, come-to-Jesus CONVERSATION that probably ends with me trying to find her a therapist. is this a good idea? Leaning toward yes [/quote]

Unless you think she's a danger to herself, I'd be cautious here. I'd be (and have been) pissed when my mother confronted me with this kind of stuff.  Life is hard.  We all go through rough patches.  I don't know what your conversations have been like, but being supportive without being judgmental helps.  As does modeling how you deal with hard times in your life.  If you can get there, ask her what types of things help her feel better, and what can she do to incorporate that into her life to make it through this difficult phase.  By asking, you empower her to see she can make some difference with her choices.

But some sort of confrontational forced conversation?   That always made me shut down.  It has made my son shut down.  Both of use emerged later -- either the hell we were in resolved itself or we learned what we could do to make things better.   And when your kid feels empowered to make change, she will find her contentment more successfully.[/quote]

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