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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sorry you are in this situation.  Your ex is such a terrible person that he would advocate for the school to expel his own kids?  That isn’t covert high conflict that is openly high conflict.

If you suspect he would do that I would think you would want the kids out of there and spending as little time with him as possible.  I can’t imagine wanting my kids to stay because of school quality.[/quote]

There are all kinds out there, so we shouldn’t assume. This isn’t everyone but it isn’t new either. In some cases parents don’t even acknowledge kids’ serious conditions diagnosed at birth. Some parents sabotage their kids. Jealousy amongst parents in a certain portion of the population is documented. Glad it’s not you! That doesn’t mean it isn’t out there or that it’s just not “here”. Parents can’t just choose for their kids to spend as little time as possible with the other parent either. It doesn’t work that way.[/quote]

I'm the PP who wrote that.  I have an ex husband who has done horrible things to my kids.  I get that OP's spouse could really be that awful.  I don't get describing the spouse's behavior as "covert" or fighting to keep the kids in a school where such a terrible spouse has increased access to them.

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Not everyone has several viable options. Then there’s the custody issue. 
OP’s ex could decide to try to make that happen behind the scenes or at least take the risk. If OP tries to move them to another school, OP may look like the one trying to upend the kids’ lives. The choice of new school might be up to the stbx. People like the stbx use their veto to call the shots. This divorce dynamic is a documented epidemic. Sly aggressors turn life into a game of chess.[/quote]

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