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[quote=Anonymous]my 16 year old has broken into every screen time app, etc, (suggestions welcome!) so we have little control over the internet--we have taken it away entirely but that has also backfired--he needs it for school and he has so few friends as it is that it does keep him connected to a few of them.

His grades are terrible because he fails to turn things in. We have been doing this for years--therapy, classes, homework checks, etc, but he has had signfiicant mental health challenges and our currenet therapist advised that we need to pick our battles--push too hard and he totall shuts down or gets destructive (usually his own things). We have so far avoided more intensive therapy but there are times I think we are closer to that than we are to 'normal.'

So my kid will not go to a great or even good college. I suspect he will need a gap year, and maybe community college. Its too bad, because he is incredibly curious and bright, but unable to bring that to bear in a consistent manner. He has become interested in welding, so maybe he will end up in the trades

I am not "divesting" from him, but we have stepped back on a lot of the pressure. We have rules, and provide support, but at a certain point it has to click for him, he is old enough to make his own choices and there's a lot we cannot control at this point. [/quote]

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