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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Time heals it. Staying away from them forever is the best thing I ever did. It also helps that I never thought they won't betray or mistreat me.[/quote]

This is real talk. Anybody can betray you. Knowing that takes a lot of that "How could he/she?!!" devastation out of it.

"I didn't think this person would choose to betray me, but they did and I acknowledge their choices" is closure. Then you detach and move on.[/quote]

[b]I struggle with this because I would never betray anyone the way I was betrayed. So I continue to ask "why would they do this?" It is hard for me to get past it.[/b]

I've discussed it with my therapist -- if I could hurt them the way they hurt me, would I? And while that momentarily feels tempting, the truth is that no, I wouldn't, because it would debase me. I wouldn't even enjoy it. In fact, it wouldn't even function as revenge because I think it would please them to see me lower myself in that way -- it would vindicate them.

So I get stuck. Why would they do this? I will never understand. And this has paralyzed me in other relationships, because how can I ever anticipate that someone would do something like this, that I could never do? I can't trust anyone but I also second guess that.

I guess I have no answers. I just keep going, I don't think I'll ever truly recover.[/quote]

Omg! Yes! I said the same. I said they are both lowlife scum who felt no guilt with their little arrangement - lying and cheating to their spouses and kids and banging on her house.

Who the fkkkkkkkkk does that ?!,!!!! Omg!! Who brings a guy into the family home to bang—-pictures of your spouse and kids, their things and what kind of dirt bag is okay doing that.

That freed me. They both were so delusional and messed up. [/quote]

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