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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No matter who "she" is, my DS's father always chooses her over him. It's been a pattern since the day he was born. Now that DS is older, it's much more apparent to both DS and I, but I can't get DS to set higher standards for himself. Example- DS has only been on 1 vacation with dad over 15 years. DS has now vacationed twice with new girlfriend in the past 6 months. The first vacation came at the expense of participating in a doctors appointment and Winter break/Christmas, the 2nd vacation came at the expense of easter and supporting DS during AP/SAT prep. DS acknowledged this, but mostly brushed it off. He compartmentalizes a lot. Speaking of, DS has a habit of not putting himself first, speaking up, being the squeaky wheel, setting standards for himself. It's affecting his confidence big time. It kills me to watch this happen in slow motion. We've all read the book and seen the movie ya know? [/quote]

It's pretty normal to vacation more with your SO than with your kids when you don't have full custody.  And, I can't see how missing a doctor's appointment and AP/SAT prep support is a big deal at all.  You're looking for something to complain about and grasping.  If he had custody during winter and spring breaks, maybe that would be worthy of hard feelings.  But, one of the benefits of a split custody situation is that you get to have an adult life when you don't have your kids.  [/quote]

Another excuse. 
So, I(mom) now take the kids on 2 or 3 vacations\trips per year, college visits, almost all Dr appts., surgery, most social activities- all while working and earning twice as much as loser dad. 
While he only takes kids once/yr to see his family(grandparents etc) where they can all pretend like they everything is fine and he is an engaged dad). Then he goes on memory’s other trips with the mistresss and her kids. And on his weekends with our kids, always drags them to outings with the mistresss and her kids. 
Way to make his own kids feel unworthy and like 2nd class citizens. Yep, dad prefers these new little kids to me- so there must be something wrong with me. [/quote]

How available do you make the kids to him!   [/quote]

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