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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love this thread because I can just feel the anxiety rise when I enter with all my boys.  The utter chaos and physicality just causes some peoples blood pressure to visibly rise.   I watch those folks chasing anxiously after their own child and think, Jesus, what’s the worst that can happen if he goes screaming down the hallway.

When you are outnumbered, your ability to control goes way down.  That lack of control over your children allows more space for simply joy.  It’s really fun to scream and yell and then they tire each other out and go to bed!  I am enjoying my kids childhoods and find that I am way less stressed than parents of fewer children who have a much stronger need to feel they are doing everything right.  [/quote]

I have an only and I never go anxiously chasing after my kid because it is totally unnecessary. She's very trustworthy and independent and I know she'll check in with us before doing something risky or new.

Big families stress me out when they come over because their kids aren't like that. There's always at least one kid who will do something crazy that I cannot imagine my kid ever doing even in our own home much less in someone else's home, without even asking. Like moving furniture, going through drawers, trying to climb things that my kid would know not to climb.

I also don't think it's fun to scream and yell. I have tons of fun as a parent but I don't like screaming. People like that??? I taught my kid not to scream because it hurts people's ears and feels stressful. Do your kids also scream and yell in restaurants and movie theaters and at school? Cool.[/quote]

I have 3 kids and when it’s just one kid at a time the don’t do any of that either. Being around other kids completely changes the dynamic. Kind of like how your daughter might behave differently at school than she does at home when she doesn’t have the full attention of adults and never has to worry about sharing, or getting the last cookie, or getting served first, or any of the other stressors that come from having siblings. [/quote]

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