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[quote=Anonymous]My DD is just 15, but I know she will want to find her birth parents, especially her mom. I don’t feel threatened by it (though we’re in the phase of life of eyerolls, sarcasm and hating mom). We’ve talked with about her birth parents from the very beginning and told her if she ever wants to meet them we will try to make it happen. They wanted a closed adoption but I do send the birth mom photos and notes every year. She responded up until DD was about 7. I’ve kept all those notes and will show to DD one day.

I think it’s normal to want to meet the people you were born to, though I know in my DD’s case, she will probably be a little disappointed when she finds them. We believe there are also siblings and are not sure how she will take that. She looks a lot like them, but some of her relatives have had hard lives, trouble with drugs/alcohol/the law/job stability, etc. some of the reasons you place a child for adoption to begin with…so while we will support her decision, I am sure the day it comes will be sensitive and emotional.

We’ve always told her that she was surrounded by love. Her birth parents loved her so much to place her, to give her a better life than they knew they could. That is truly a great love.

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