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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 24 year old daughter is recently engaged to a very nice young man (28). He’s finished law school, seems responsible, and his parents are great—so in many ways I feel lucky about who she’s chosen.

That said, I have a concern I can’t quite shake, and I’m wondering if I’m overthinking it. For years—really since she was a teenager—I’ve tried to encourage her to get a job, but she never has. She’s very stubborn and has just never been interested in working.

She does have skills and abilities, so it’s not that I think she can’t work. I’m just worried that she’s never actually had to support herself or build any kind of independence, and she doesn’t seem to have a backup plan. I’m especially worried about her financial independence and what would happen down the line if she doesn’t have anything to fall back on.

While her fiancé seems like a solid partner, life is unpredictable, and I can’t help but think about what could happen if circumstances changed.

I don’t want to come across as negative or make her feel less than, especially during an exciting time in her life. I just feel uneasy and want her to have some level of independence and security.

Has anyone dealt with something similar? Did you say something, or let it go?

Thanks for any perspective.[/quote]

She decided the man is the plan. Either it works or the will FAFO.

You raised her: this is what you have. Love with it. No point in worrying. [/quote]

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