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[quote=Anonymous]   If she only had a year or 2 to live, then I might suggest you focus on sticking around, but I stayed and it has been many years, and the controlling behavior gets worse and, in my case, she became abusive so i had to outsource.

This is not her choice to make and it's not worth setting off unneeded dramatics even mentioning it to her again until it's carved in stone now that's it clear she will be controlling. You planted the seed. Once you are actually moving, you focus the conversation on getting supports in place for her for aging in place if she refuses to go into residential.

She will need a case worker to check on her regularly and manage all care systems so you can simply fly back and check on things and not have to arrange care. There will be times you cannot fly back due to your own emergency or a national emergency. She needs a system in place relying on paid professionals, not taking advantage of the kindness of others. If she cannot afford professionals, I'd talk to APS and the council on aging on what supports can be put in place.[/quote]

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