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Why are you in the middle of your mother falling out w other family members?

Remove yourself from all that. To include not listening to her side of the story or whatever.

Also Speak up for yourself OP. 
Let your mother know her fights w other family members is not your problem.

The end.

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I'm just curious -- what do you think family is all about? Is it about ignoring people who cause pain to family members, shrugging your shoulders and saying, "Not my problem"? Because that's what you're describing. I would suggest OP's mother is better off without her if that's how she feels. I'm sure people like you are often saying, "Your family is the family you make, not the one you're born with" and I would say the same to OP's mother. OP is not family to her mother if she doesn't care that others hurt her. The end.[/quote]

Ma’am 
OPs mother wants OP to not speak to family she’s mad at.

How is that fair to OP? Why should OP get mixed up in that?

What does OP have to do w her mother’s issues w others?

Do you insert yourself in other family members drama behind the name of them simply being family ?

Op gets along fine w those people.

Why should she not speak w them bc of her messy mothers issues w them ?

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Sure. Let's put it this way: Your DC has a longtime friend and now, in middle or high school, is being bulled. The long-time friend remains friends with the bullies because she's not the one being bullied. Not her problem. She tells DD about sleepovers and parties which your DC doesn't attend. Does that sound like a friend to you, ma'am? I would council my DC to no longer think of that person as a friend.

OP's mother is better off without her. She's better off making a family of her own from the people she chooses. Isn't that what people on DCUM are always advising?[/quote]

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