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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Only two things can destroy confidence for u13 and below players.

1. Coach (detrimental, mean and focuses more on mistakes rather than creativity and learning. It's ok to make mistakes. Punish kids for making mistakes. Wants only wins for personal gain or to please the club)

2. Dad (wants only to win, grills kids before and after games. Screaming from the sidelines, wants kid to be the best player on the team to brag).

Soccer should be fun at all times. The best players have fun when they play (Ronaldinho, Neymar. Messi , etc). I have seen the best players are the ones who have the quietest parents who are supportive (of course you have to have an excellent coach for this to work).

Good luck and I hope he can regain his confidence. If he is on the top team he has potential. Don't let it go to waste.[/quote]

I would add a third.  Teammates at this age can have a big impact too on some kids.  My DS lost tons of confidence when [b]other players yelled at him and said you suck when he lost the ball or missed some shots on goal[/b].  It got to the point where all he did  was pass  as soon as he got the ball  even if the right thing to do was shoot or dribble.  it took almost a year after some of those kids left the team for him to play freely again [/quote]

Yep, left a team partly due to this dynamic. I don't understand parents who aren't proactive in telling their kids not to do this to teammates. It's such crappy behavior. I have noticed the kids who do this usually have parents who are highly critical. So I think they turn it outward because they feel bad about what is being said to them (kind of like how bullies at school are usually being bullied at home).[/quote]

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