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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I think the reason I am having trouble accepting this is that I saw something similar in my own grandmother but she completely overcame it. My grandfather died when they were in their 50s, and she learned to drive, cut the grass, take care of the house, and started traveling a ton. She went to Africa twice with just her sister, and all over the world.

I also don't see this as my "husband's problem". We both love his parents, and they're my children's grandparents. But alas, appears nothing I can do. They live about 30 minutes from us (they literally just moved to be closer to us, but now never drive to see their grandkids' events or birthday dinners because of the night-time limitations.)  [/quote]

Same with my grandmother. Didn't know how to do anything when my grandfather passed unexpected at 65. She had never done anything. At 60 she learned  so much, traveled all over the world, took their small estate and more than doubled it. But she is a ball of fire. I'm guessing she was on a slow simmer of frustration the whole time they were married. But that's a guess. Plus, in her case, she had no one to fall back on. She had to do it, and she did.

OP, your MIL has to want to do it. I know a woman who is 60 and refuses to learn to drive. She loves that her kids and DH take her places. I suspect she assumes after her DH is gone (assuming he goes first) that her kids will continue to drive her around and "take care of her."[/quote]

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