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[quote=Anonymous]Definitely talk to your husband about focusing on positive reinforcement over criticism.

I was like your husband with my oldest son. He was a decent player but never truly had a love for the game, and I put too much pressure on him. Around U13 he stepped off the travel soccer train and just enjoyed house/rec and later high school soccer and things were much better after I learned to back off.

With my second son, he loves soccer and was a standout player up until puberty hit his age group. As a late bloomer for puberty, he fell behind in the raw athleticism (raw speed, strength, etc.) and I saw his confidence wane over his last year of intense travel soccer (age 12). When he was dropped from the top team we decided to step back and just focus on having fun and playing for school and seeing where things go from here. At 13 still loves the game but hasn't gotten back on the intense travel soccer track yet, and not sure if he ever will.

So, while you should definitely talk with your husband and focus on positivity over criticism, don't feel too bad either way -- kids often reach a point where for whatever reason they lose the intense drive or desire to stay at the top level in soccer. And that's OK. The most important thing is supporting them and making it fun -- that's what the love of the game is all about. [/quote]

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