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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We will be 12 years married next month. The marriage has been strained from the get go. I have posted on this board many times. I was terrified to leave, and I refused to do it before kids as I was not risking not having kids (we have 2 and they are the lights of my life).

My youngest is 2 (old enough for 50/50 custody), and somehow something finally flipped in me; I am done accepting crumbs, and I’m not even mad anymore. I am going to move into the house I bought years ago (now a rental), and I feel light as a feather. I look forward to life again and don’t feel complete misery.

Anyway, just wanted to share. It’s amazing the physical sensation of complete relief I feel giving up on trying to get blood from a stone. I don’t care if I am single for the rest of my life, in fact I welcome it. I have a good job, 2 beautiful kids, and life is going to be grand.

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I separated from my ex when my youngest was 2. FYI You are still in a relationship with your ex and will be for at least 15 - 20 more years. In fact, your relationship might be much harder and more complicated than you can ever imagine right now. I’m not telling you what to do, but you should have eyes wide open. This will likely be very hard on your kids for years.  [/quote]

Maybe. My ex moved to another country with his new wife and just stopped being a dad. [/quote]

You must be a sociopath if you think that’s a great outcome for any children. No wonder you are divorced [/quote]

PP isn’t the one who moved across the world and left his child behind. You sound like an unstable person projecting your own issues onto someone else's story, where there is nothing in her text to support your claims. Some people have children and then abandon them—it's a tale as old as time. It’s not the fault of the parent who stays or the child; all blame lies with the loser who chose to leave his child. [/quote]

You have no idea what happened in that relationship but seem to be on here encouraging divorce. And my point obviously was that having a parent not be in a child’s life is not a good outcome. I didn’t say whose fault it was. Reading comp skills would help you a lot.

You seem to be projecting some deep insecurities about divorce onto others by calling out how ideal it was for you. That’s fine for you, but there is a certain reality to divorce that cannot be denied despite exceptions to the rule. Some of us are willing to admit those undeniable realities, but people like you are in hard denial and I have to wonder why that is… [/quote]

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