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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No and it drives me crazy. Mine just demand FaceTime. Both sides demand FaceTime. My kids have hated face time since they were toddlers. One kid was so bad he usually lost privileges after every face time and then it turned into big fights with parents. We just refuse to discipline our kids anymore to sit and withstand the hell of FaceTime. What is it with boomers and FaceTime? My kids love to talk on the regular phone but that’s not on“enough.”  I wish our parents just called the kids.

[b]My parents and grandparents both won’t call us. They think phone calls should always be initiated by the younger generation. [/b][/quote]

OP and same here. I was curious whether this was universal.[/quote]

Both my parents and my ILs are the same. It annoys us but we gave up and now just schedule calls with them (like we both have calendar reminders to call them weekly). When we call, they will ask to FaceTime with the kids. Sometimes they are available and sometimes they aren't. Usually even if they are available, they will get through maybe 3 minutes of FaceTime and they it's clear they are done and we'll wrap up the call.

Part of the problem is that our parents don't make an effort to engage our kids, ask about or talk about things that might be interesting to them, etc. My dad will drone on about landscaping. My MIL will want to talk about her friends and people in her town my kids don't know. They almost never ask the kids anything about themselves. Sometimes DH or I will volunteer info if we know our kids won't mind. Like that we saw a movie recently the kids liked, or they've taken up some hobby or something. But the grandparents rarely take the bait and pursue these as lines as discussion -- they'll just nod vaguely and turn the conversation back to themselves.

So they are all very one sided relationships. I think it is too bad. Not just for my kids but for our parents, who I think will regret not doing more to cultivate good relationships with their kids or grandkids as they get older. [/quote]

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