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[quote=Anonymous][b]I'm curious to know what came of this? I'm guessing this is/was also middle school.[/b] What came of this is difficult to ascertain. There are a few key details that need to be fleshed out from the PP based upon available documentation in the form of parent emails. During the first three weeks of school, the allegedly abusive child: -slapped a female student across the face at recess -slapped, kicked, and punched another male student -told three girls that “it is ok to kill girls, but not to kill boys because that’s illegal” -knocked another student to the ground -threw a male student to the ground and kicked him -went after another boy, chased him trying to, in his words, “snap his neck.” Later, he allegedly: -threw thumb tacks at a female student, then pushed her against a wall/into a sharp corner, and threw a shoe at her -went after another male student, hurt him and ripped his shirt Throughout, he allegedly bullied his classmates, called them names, made racist remarks, made threatening remarks to various kids about killing and stabbing to a point where a number of kids were scared to be in class. According to available documentation, staff at multiple points had to physically intervene to protect those who were being targeted: -One staff member allegedly physically pulled the allegedly abusive child off of another. -Two other staff members allegedly restrained the allegedly abusive child, but he got away from them and went after the previously targeted child whom he had threatened to “snap his neck,” again. Not long after parents documented that the first-mentioned staff member above pulled the allegedly abusive child off of another, that staff member was allegedly placed on “administrative leave,” which commenced roughly two weeks (possibly longer) prior to winter break. It is unclear if the personnel action was related to the situation detailed in the last sentence. That staff member was allegedly instructed not to have any contact with anyone at the school during that period. His/her abrupt and prolonged absence concerned some of his/her colleagues who found it uncharacteristic that he/she would be out for multiple weeks without communication. One or more of his/her colleagues allegedly contacted him/her to find out if he/she was ok. He/she allegedly reported that he/she was in distress, that he/she needed help, that he/she didn’t know what was happening, and that he/she feared that he/she was about to be terminated. The next day, sometime apparently just prior to Christmas 2023, he/she died. Cause of death remains unclear. Shortly thereafter, an anonymous email was sent to some parents and the entire board that read: [i]It is reported that (teacher redacted) was put on leave in the weeks before he/she died. It is reported that the day before he/she died, he/she was anguished, that he/she felt helpless, that he/she was worried about termination, that he/she did not understand what was going on. This seems to be part of a much longer pattern of emotional manipulation and abuse that has been reported and documented for years. The board was warned before this horrible event that Lowell is an unsafe place psychologically. We will not put ourselves in a position to allow this hostile, toxic, vindictive, and dangerous culture to impact one more person at this school. It is time for (HoS) to resign. It is also time for (prior term Board Chair) to resign. The rest of the board should deeply reflect on the sort of school it wants to run. We expect these resignations by Thursday, 2/1 at 4:59 p.m. [/i] In response, the HoS sent the following notification to all faculty (clipped from a longer email): [i]Finally, I want to acknowledge an email that has been shared with some of you, though perhaps not all. Wednesday evening, after our meeting, the Board and some (redacted) grade families received an anonymous email claiming that an emotionally abusive environment has been allowed to grow under my leadership and calling for my resignation and for (prior term board chair) to step down as chair of the Board of Trustees by 4:59 pm yesterday (Thursday). Please know that I have spoken with (prior term board chair), who approved my sharing this information with you. There are two important things to know about that email. Because it is anonymous, the Board has no intention of responding. We are a community that respects each other, and anonymous threats will not be tolerated. For any of you concerned about possible safety issues resulting from this email, please know that (security personnel) are doing extra patrols, and we have contacted the district commander from MPD for additional guidance. In closing, I would like to be clear with anyone who believes this email is a sign of my departure from Lowell: I have no intention of resigning. I love this community, and I believe in its power to make a difference in the world. There is hard work in front of us as we build the foundation for the next 60 years of Lowell, and I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else than here, working side-by-side with you. [/i] The HoS described the email as a "threat." An objective reading of it reveals that it wasn't. Nonetheless, her referencing security and potential police involvement apparently had the effect of shutting down much discourse about the troubling events. On December 27, 2023, in the wake of the staff member's death, the HoS finally responded to the fifteen parents, explaining that the allegedly abusive child would not be returning for the spring semester. Her responses to their bolded bullet-pointed requests are BOLDED: [i]Good afternoon, As promised, I am writing to respond to the requests stated in your letter dated December 13 and to provide some updated information: 1. Provide an additional full-time professional educator for [redacted] class, and during recess and other times when the whole grade is together. [b]As we shared previously, while not a sustainable long-term option, we have provided and will continue to provide an additional individual to the greatest extent possible and/or necessary. [/b] 2. Ensure that prompt, effective and transparent action is taken to address any acts of violence, aggression, bullying or discrimination, and that the parents of all children involved are notified. [b](Redacted) and I have been in daily contact regarding the challenges in (redacted) grade, and (redacted) has consistently invited families into dialogue as we work to address the concerns. Every time an incident occurred, (they) took immediate action once the investigations concluded, assigning consequences, informing the appropriate parents, and providing prompt, effective, and as transparent communication as possible that protected the privacy of the students involved. After the investigation of one particular incident concluded, we did learn that additional students might have been impacted, but those students were not named in any of the multiple interviews with those directly involved. Had additional students been named in that incident at any point during the investigation, I am confident (redacted) would have notified the relevant parents.[/b] 3. Devise and implement a zero-tolerance policy for physical violence at the school. [b]A focus of the school's administrative work since June has been researching organizations to help us revise our harassment and bullying policies. This fall, a team of individuals across the Primary and Middle divisions began working with the national organization Campus Outreach Services to rewrite the Family Handbook, with particular attention to the harassment and bullying section. The organization’s founders caution against zero-tolerance policies, which often do not account for students’ developmental stages. [/b] 4. Schedule a whole grade meeting of the (redacted) grade parents with the administration and a trained third-party facilitator to ensure that all parents are aware of the current harmful environment that their children are facing and/or contributing to. [b]If, after reading this letter, you still wish to convene a meeting, please let me know more about what you have in mind. (Redacted) and I are always available to hear parents’ concerns.[/b] 5. Provide supplemental lessons for the class on identifying and standing up to bullying and discrimination.[b] Upon our return to school in January, (redacted) School counselor (redacted) will begin a unit on conflict, bullying, and microaggressions that was originally scheduled for later in the spring.[/b] [b]In addition to the above, I am writing to inform you that the student referred to in your second letter as “Student A” will not return to Lowell in January.[/b] While my response to your letter was planned for last week, I hope you understand my need to focus on our entire community following the news of (redacted staff member’s) passing. I appreciate your patience. [/i] In closing, I’d like to share that the events and communications of the last four months have left me with much to reflect on regarding how Lowell’s mission informs the school’s engagement with families and families’ engagement with each other, especially when a student’s/students’ behavior is having an impact on others. As with any complex challenge, I trust you, too, have learned much from this experience. I continue to be open to dialogue regarding the incidents that have occurred this fall, and I invite any of you, at any time, to engage in such a conversation. Looking forward to the rest of this school year and (redacted), I hope that in times of challenge and in times of triumph, we can work together beyond our assumptions to support the children in our care. In continued partnership, (HoS) Questions the school should answer, or other questions that come to mind: -In the alleged SA situation upthread, the alleged abusive child had reportedly been either expelled or asked to leave his prior school. Did Lowell have any information about the prior records of these children before admitting them? If so, why were they allowed to enter the environment in the first place? -After being notified of the situation, why did the administration seemingly drag its feet for so long? -How much support was the faculty given throughout to deal with the situation? -Why did the HoS's response to the fifteen parents, and her announcement that "Student A" would not return in January, come only after news of the staff member's death broke? -Did any of the actions or events promised; or changes proposed by the HoS in her response to the fifteen parents come to pass? If so, are they ongoing in light of everything that has been detailed on this thread? Have they been implemented across the entire school in a meaningful and sustained manner, and not just in ways to placate fifteen parents? If not, why not? -Why was the staff member, who in the above documented case was apparently protecting a child from another allegedly abusive child; and who by myriad accounts was a stellar educator and professional, allegedly put on administrative leave a short time later, apparently made to feel as if his/her job might be in jeopardy, and apparently instructed not to contact anyone at the school during that period? What, if any, relationship existed between these circumstances? -Administrative leave is a tool of discipline at Lowell, routinely wielded in other circumstances. Protecting a child from harm in circumstances like those described above would have been in character for this staff member. Was he/she being disciplined for that? If so, why? Answers to the troubling questions above might be hard to come by. The school should be given the opportunity to answer them, but Lowell parents and prospective ones should ponder whether they want to be affiliated with a school where they even have to be asked at all. [/quote]
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