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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Met attorney to begin divorce proceedings, he was pretty convinced that i will not be eligible for alimony even though i make less than half of him, have a 28 year marriage,  chronic health conditions, PLUS he is having a work place affair. Is the attorney being realistic? Would mediation help as STBX keeps denying affair?[/quote] No one cares about the affair. BTDT. That doesn't move the needle in your favor. You make less than half, but are you earning six figures? If so that will impact maintenance for sure but zero maintenance seems unreasonable. Talk to several attorneys. Good luck![/quote]

I did tell the attorney, they mentioned proposing rehabilitative alimony for a few years.. and yes, I make six figures-[/quote]

If you are making six figures you may get a few years but probably not lifetime.  I'd negociate for things like the house, etc.[/quote]

Thats what the attorney said-hope the mediation helps somehow. I want to play the card right-the AP gets to lose career and any job prospects (as its a close community) if the affair comes out. My STBX will be fine I know. Of course, he wouldnt want her to lose anything..[/quote] Don't worry about the AP. Worry about yourself. I made the AP largely irrelevant in the aftermath of my separation, which is empowering. Leave her out of the equation and focus on finding an attorney who will get you the best financial settlement possible. Of course if he has been recklessly dissipating marital assets on his AP you are entitled to half that money but in most cases it's not worth worrying about. The AP did not cause the affair. This is between you and your ex and it has become a financial transaction.  I hope this makes sense but it has really helped me move forward through a very ugly divorce.[/quote]

+1, if he didn't cheat with her, he'd cheat with someone else.  She is selfish for participating in it and that speaks of her character but he's the one who cheated on you by his own choice.  Forget her.

Negotiate for things important to you.  Ask for the house free and clear, for example.  That's what my mom did and got it.[/quote]

What does asking for the house free and clear mean? Fully paid? [/quote]

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