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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don’t need more reminders you need fewer. And those reminders can’t be “do you need to go?” They need to be let’s take a break and go now. Who needs to pee every 30 minutes? You’re not teaching her to listen to her body but rather the clock. Then you say things like “I’m not playing with you until you go. Just sit on the toilet for 30 seconds with the water running.”  If she says I don’t have to, but it’s been 2 hours since she last did “ok I’ll wait. Prove that you don’t have to”. If you make her go every 30 minutes she’ll hate the toilet. Also it’s not a potty anymore, it’s a bathroom. [/quote]

I do need to be more strict when it comes to not asking her but telling.  She always says she doesnt have to go.  Then when she does at least try, she will pretend to go but I know she didnt.  I am going to start setting a timer for 30 minutes and go from there.[/quote]

Every 30 minutes is a nuisance.  Who goes to the bathroom every 30 minutes?  That's 8 times every 4 hours.  How do you go from "Do you need to go?" to "let's go try."  It will start to annoy her and doesn't teach her to listen to her body, but rather a clock.  That's not a good idea, do it no more than once an hour.  [/quote]

She doesnt actually go every 30 minutes.  I just make her try to go.  Like I said before, 95% of the time she says she doesnt have to go but I make her try anyways.  What irritates me is that she will fight me when I ask her to at least try.  She doesnt want to put forth the effort to want to help herself stop.[/quote]

This comment is convincing me that it's more likely to be something like ADHD. Calling a neurodivergent person lazy or calling them out for not putting forth effort can be really damaging to their self-esteem, and also being forced to do something is more likely to make them fight it.[/quote]

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