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[quote=Anonymous]We do. DH is a doctor, I used to practice law but now work as a Title IX investigator at a state U. Not a great salary but great benefits. Our kids are 14, 12, and 6. I did work part time (real part time-not the kind of part time where you are a lawyer working 40+ hours a week) when the older two were preschool age, but DH job was also extra demanding at that point with long hours, call, weekend work, etc.

DS (the 6 yo) was a dream baby, which helped- he slept 12-14 hours a night from 12 weeks. The catch, I guess, was that he ended up having mild CP. He was not dxed until he was 5, but we caught delays when he turned 3, and I got a crash course in special needs parenting, which is a whole new level of parenting demands. The older two were in K and 2 when he was born and I went back to work FT. A neighbor greeted them off the bus, and then in following years they did after care. They attended various school day out camps for days off school or had a neighbor babysit them. DS was in daycare from 13 weeks on.

To make it all work, I take intermittent FMLA at my job for DS appointments. My hours are not too bad- I work 8-4:30 and am home at 4:45. I have never had telework so I don't know differently. We do have the type of set up that we can WFH if we have a sick kid or a service person coming - maybe one day a month I WFH. DH started working remotely 2 years ago and works 5:30-2 or so, and is home for school bus and also for the random days off of school. He also does some of the routine appointments with dcs in the afternoons. We have a weekly cleaner.

We manage fine during the year, but summer is the stress point. Once kids are in middle school, their summer activities tend to be less than full day, so I cobble together driving help to drive my dds around to their camps, jobs, and activities. The juggling part gets harder after the day care days - the kids all have their different activities (and as they get older you can't get away with signing them all up for the same activities anymore) and half the year they have no school. But the hands on parenting (assisting with basic needs) obviously gets easier.[/quote]

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