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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've been with my BF for more than two years and have mostly been sooo happy with him. He's sweet, loving, supportive, sex has been great, etc. Sure, there were minor things I did not love, but they seemed minor. I truly have spent most of the last couple years feeling joyful and grateful to have met him. But then suddenly-- literally it felt like out of the blue-- everything he does annoys me! His hair is annoying. His voice is annoying. What he says is annoying. When he practices the piano it's annoying. His musical taste is annoying. The way he combs his hair is annoying. The way he compliments me is annoying. Etc. I am trying so hard to hide my reactions from him, because I recognize that the poor man is doing the exact same things he has always done, so it would be wildly unfair for me to suddenly start snapping at him.

I am honestly distressed and baffled by my own emotions. Two theories:

1) He actually IS annoying and not the right man for me, but I was so grateful to find ANYONE after a painful divorce that I suppressed/ignored all the ways he was not actually right for me-- and now that I am in a better place and feeling more secure generally, all the things I suppressed or ignored are rising to the surface again and I need to pay attention to these feelings of annoyance.

2) Something is going on with me! He is still a wonderful man and a great partner for me, but I am under stress (this is actually true, finding him annoying coincided with the start of a super stressful work project), it has affected my mood and perceptions, and I am unreasonably taking it all out on him (at least, in terms of my internal state).

If theory one is right, maybe I need to back off a little from this relationship and recognize it may not be the perfect relationship I fantasized about.

If theory two is right I need to work on getting less stressed and focus on feeling gratitude and love.

I am really hoping it is the latter!

Has anyone gone through phases like this, where the person you love is suddenly getting on your last nerve all the time for some extended period of time (a few weeks/months)? Has it passed? Is this just... normal and ride it out? Or a warning sign about compataibility? [/quote]

Did you come off of Birth Control? [/quote]

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