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Thank you, that’s helpful. They are in middle school but with no after care and no bus service. The way it works now is that I pick them up and take them to various activities or bring them home. [b]If I were working, that obviously wouldn’t work and I would need an afternoon nanny/driver until my workday ends. I think I need to negotiate the ongoing cost of a nanny/driver into our settlement[/b], particularly since I don’t think he has thought through how he would care for them on school days on his time. He usually wraps up the work day around 6ish but once in a while has the flexibility to finish his day around 2 or 3, so he imagines his schedule as very flexible. But I don’t think he realizes that he would need to sustain that on a daily basis for 5 days at a time. And he certainly hasn’t thought through summer and their morning sports practices or anything like that.

It’s tough because I think I’m going to be negotiating with his magical thinking based on an ideal non-travel day. He doesn’t have a grasp of the reality of daily caregiving.
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If this is what you end up doing, make sure that the cost responsibility is split in proportion to your incomes. 
You could also split based on usage, but if you'll be working full-time, usage will probably be equal or close to it.... That is, unless you have a close friend, neighborhood carpool or a family member that can help out on your weeks (which is true in my situation).  If that might be the case, consider the pro rata usage condition. 
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Based on our current imputed income calculations (and this is just projections), child support/expense calculations will be based on him making 20x my income. So hopefully that would bring my share of a nanny/driver down quite significantly if I can negotiate that down. Otherwise my income once I am working full-time again will be less than what a full-time nanny or driver would earn so an allocation of that expense based on usage would be challenging for me.[/quote]

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