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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids have always worked and they know not to come to me for frivolous purchases. I have boys through. If I had a girl I would probably give her extra. Being a woman is expensive. [/quote]

OP here. There's also the equity issue. The older child is out of college, has a salary, but lives in a high cost of living area. Her rent for a small bedroom in an apartment is nearly as much as my mortgage. There is no monthly allowance from a 529 anymore. She makes it work.

The youngest is still in college. I'm taking care of her needs -- that's fine, she's still a dependent. But if I indulge in the "extras" then I feel like I need to give the older child "extras" too. Or, if the older child finds out her sister gets "extras" she might be hurt and resentful.

I guess I, too, am still trying to move past the childhood era when I tried to treat them equally.

I guess we'll see where we are in a couple of years when younger child graduates. That will be more of an apples-to-apples situation. I can just see their different financial habits and worry more about the younger one. [/quote]

Huh??? They are different ages. One is older and has a job. One is younger and in school. Of course you give the younger one more money. If the older one complains, you tell her that you did the same when she was in college.

I can't believe I am the first person to question this 200 dollar haircut habit. I've never paid that much for a haircut and I go to nice places. I pay 125 dollars three or four times a year.

When your daughter runs out of money, you need to remind her that she needs to stick to the budget and if she wants more money, she needs to make money over the summer. Or even - gasp - during the school year.[/quote]

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