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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are working on our lottery list for first grade. We're looking for a school that will work for our family at least through 4th  or 5th grade (though beyond is obviously a bonus). It's our first time seriously considering our school options (we've just been at our IB since PK3).

My husband and I are very egalitarian parents, and have been working together on research, went to EdFest together, and have now gone to 6 open houses with 3-4 more on the horizon, almost all together. We are generally very much on the same page about our priorities, and each of the schools we've seen, we've agreed upon where it should go on our list.

The most recent school we looked at we vastly disagree, and I'm honestly not sure how to move forward. Our assessment of the school is actually pretty similar. With regards to Priority A, we agree that it's actually the best of all the schools we've visited so far. But with regards to Priority B, we agree it's bad, basically at the bottom.

But the problem is that one of us thinks that it should essentially be off our list because Priority B makes it untenable. The other thinks that the issues with Priority B are surmountable, and because it's SO good at Priority A it should be near (or at) the top of our list.

I'm being vague on purpose, both in the names of the schools and the competing priorities, because I'm not interested in how other random internet people would prioritize this (though I'm happy to come back and post at the end of the discussion for the curious). I'm wondering how you handle actually making the decision as parents and partners. Have other people faced lottery order disagreement? How did you come to a resolution?[/quote]

OP— is this the first time you and your partner have ever disagreed on something?? Because the answer is to handle it the same way you handle all the things about which you have significant disagreements. You listen to each other respectfully, communicate your concerns, and come to an understanding.[/quote]

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