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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a lifelong friend who is a bit like this.
Her lies aren’t that elaborate but she does have some delusions about herself and then she adds lies to prove them. I know for a fact what college major she had.
Then she decided to publish a history book and started calling herself a professional historian having gone to college for it. 
She gets super defensive when confronted.
Her lies are harmless for other people so I don’t confront her. 
She is a great friend otherwise and has helped me many times. 
I am just never ever taking anything I hear from her at face value. But if she says she’ll have a rental for you then it’s true and that’s what matters (I rent her Airbnbs sometimes). It may not be as luxurious as she claims but it will be there the dates you need it and decent enough. [/quote]

To me the defensiveness is the biggest red flag. I would understand more if someone like this sometimes lied or embellished impulsively, but when called on it were like "yeah, I should have said it that way, I got carried away." My dad is kind of like that, he just gets enthusiastic when he tells stories and sometimes adds details that are over the top, but if you say "come on, that's not how it happened" he just laughs and says "no, but it just sounds better that way" and isn't upset at all at being called out.

It's when people get very defensive or angry that I feel it's a malignant trait, because it makes it clear that they were knowingly misleading people and mad not to have gotten away with it.[/quote]

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