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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a person in my life I have known for about two years. I work with her but also know her in my social circle and they are good friends with several of my friends. For the first year I knew her, she seemed great. Fun, friendly, good conversationalist, makes friends easily. I had no issues with her at all, in fact was starting to consider her a friend.

But then I caught her in a weird lie[b]. I knew she'd gone out of town with a mutual friend on Saturday day and night, because I'd spent the following day with that friend and they'd told me all about it -- they had a good time. But at work on Monday, she told an elaborate lie to a coworker about what she'd done over the weekend. The lie was detailed and framed her in a very sympathetic way, it involved an injury and a hospital visit that I knew had not happened[/b]. I didn't say anything at the time because it was so weird and I honestly thought I'd just misheard either my friend's story or hers.

But then it happened several more times. On one occasion she told me and another woman that she was very close friends with someone I know. Later I saw this person and said "oh we have a mutual friend!" but she had no idea who I was talking about and had not done the things this woman said they'd done together.  It was so weird. And then a few more instances I won't get into but all along a similar vein.

My impression of this woman has been very changed since I've noticed this. I no longer like her and I prefer not to socialize with her when I can. But I haven't vocalized any of this to her and don't think I should -- it would create drama at work. Also, I now worry she would be weird it. Now that I know how easily she lies (and for no reason that I can understand), I worry she might lie about me. It's almost like she seems like a dangerous person now.

But she's so convincing! So friendly, so well liked. If I hadn't encountered this strange behavior, I'd still think she was great. But now I feel weird and I don't know what to do about it.

WWYD?[/quote]
Maybe she didn't mention the trip because the hospital visit and trauma was more top of mind for her. Are you sure that didnt happen on the same weekend? I wouldn't stress if she is truly the way you think, people will see it and treat her with suspicion too.
If she is lying about others, you should always speak up to correct it, but I wouldn't go poking the bear and gossiping about her because your intuition about her being a danger to you might be correct.[/quote]

OP here. That's what I told myself at the time, even though it didn't seem possible based on what I knew about her trip with my friend, which I know happened. But that was just the first lie I noticed. There have been many more of varying sizes since then. Now I feel pretty confident she made up the stuff about the injury and hospital visit. She may have hurt herself that weekend, but it was a minor injury and she definitely didn't spend the night in the ER, as she was at a concert and then sharing a hotel room with my friend in another city.

I don't say anything even when she is clearly lying about someone I know because the lies are weird. Like when she claimed to be good friends with this woman I know fairly well, I thought "oh they must know each other than I thought." But then when I saw that person and found out they didn't know each other, what was I going to say? It's not an unkind lie about my friend. In a way it's flattering because apparently my colleague views knowing this person well to be something worth lying in a bragging way about.

I have no interest in gossiping but I just feel strange about it. It makes me very uncomfortable when she says these things and I do wonder if I *should* be telling my friends that she says this stuff. But I don't want to get involved.

Basically the whole thing makes me just feel uncomfortable and I wish I could just avoid her completely so that I wouldn't know about the lies.[/quote]

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