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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Had a friend like this as well.  I did nothing, just let the relationship naturally fizzle. Had a mutual friend who wanted to make people aware of the lies.  It didn't really reflect well on her with a lot of people.

It doesn't sound like there have been any malicious lies, so why are you worried she'd suddenly start with you?[/quote]

It is sad that your friend who told the truth (about your other friend's lies) wound up looking bad while the liar did not. Sounds like you could have backed her up but chose not to, which is weird to me.[/quote]

I did back her up when it was brought up.  We were mutual friends, didn't really hang out unless it was a larger gathering.  Never had an opportunity to back her up in person, mostly did it when I overheard people bad mouthing her.  Unfortunately former friend got a lot of sympathy/attention with her lies so people seemed to feel like the person who called her out was either jealous or just not a nice person. [/quote]

Your friend seems to be like me. I have told other friend's pabout people who lied and manipulated to get their way or in the name of keeping the peace in a group. I ended up being blamed for whatever went wrong and labeled as "difficult" and the liars go about being happy and liked by all.

Sometimes I wish I knew how to be diplomatic and lie or at least avoid talking about things to keep the peace.

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I am similar -- I will point out stuff like this and then be told I'm the problem. For a time I tried curbing my instinct to say something in these situations, but then I was on a jury where one guy was pulling some serious BS, and I was the only one to speak up. Not a single person backed me up when I spoke up, but the issue was addressed. Then later, like 8 different people came to me privately to thank me for saying something.

I realized this is just my role. It won't always make me popular, but it's important to have people in the world who won't suffer fools gladly. I don't speak up unless I'm certain someone is trying to get away with something, but when I am sure, I don't hold back.

There should be some minimal standards in society.[/quote]

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