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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have 4th and 5th grade girls. Friend drama starts early and doesn’t go away.

General rules- you don’t have to be friends but you have to be kind. [b]Full stop. [/b]No nastiness and I don’t want to hear you were mean at school. You will not be mean and when you say someone is annoying or you give the cold shoulder that is mean. Give examples of other ways to behave that is authentic to her friendships but not exclusive.

Saying she can’t control her reactions is an opportunity to coach better ways to respond. Taking a deep breath like you suggest or brainstorming other coping responses. She is responsible for her own behavior always and she needs to be accountable. No one ‘made me act X way’.

My girls know if they complain about a friend interaction I’ll always listen but I’ll always ask either ‘what was your role in that moment’ or ‘what’s one thing you could have done differently’. This has helped tremendously in accountability.

Don’t be a ‘candle blower-outer’. Google if from brene brown.

And yes, queen bees and wanna bees is a good rec.

Good luck and buckle up. This is constant coaching and conversation. It’s not one and done. 
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Please use “full stop” correctly. It means what it says. You’re not supposed to keep yammering away after using it.[/quote]

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