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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It would be nice to know if we’re talking about 6 yr olds or 16 yr olds.  (Yes I know extreme range). But I would counsel my kids differently depending on the age.

I agree with the PP who is wondering why your child has not been standing up for herself.  Seems odd to me.

Also stop with the “only children are spoiled and self centered”.  Her being an only child has nothing to do with her being unpleasant.  The most unpleasant child I’ve dealt with was one of 5–because she was smack in the middle and received virtually no attention, so bad attention was better than none.[/quote]

The girls are 9.

I stress kindness, maybe too much. I have taught my child to be polite and kind. If my child has a better anything, I would be horrified if she said my “x” is better than your “y”.

My friend’s daughter and my daughter have different strengths and weaknesses. I would absolutely not want my child to put down the other child. I don’t think my child knows how to respond when someone insults her.

There was a girl in her class last year who is a bully and mean. I just coached my daughter to stay away from her.[/quote]

The girls don't need to hang out but your daughter should learn how to respond to meaness. That doesn't have to involve put downs. Labeling the action and your child's discomfort is an easy way of advocatingfor herself while being kind.

"Hey Larla, you're stepping on my foot. Can you move?" "Ow, Larla, you jabbed me in the rib. Can you move your arm so that doesn’t happen again?" "Your X is nice, but I like my Y. We can like different things." [/quote]

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