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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For the majority of women, this approach is best. [/quote]

If you want a bad boyfriend who doesn't care about consent so when you try and get away, he comes after you because it is oh so fun to be chased. TO have someone who won't respect you and comes after you no matter what.

Then you will be on here complaining about oh he turned out to be a stalker. So surprising. [/quote]

I don’t think “chase” is the best word here.

Obviously if you tell a man no and he still pursues you, that’s not okay. I’ve had a couple guys I went out with once or twice, wasn’t feeling it, ended it, and they kept reaching out for weeks/months until I blocked them. That’s a red flag.

What OP is probably talking about is the huge number of men who will respond to your messages, but never really initiate messages or ask you out. Probably 80% of men on OLD fall in this category. A lot are married or in a LTR, or they just want entertainment, or they want you as a backup, or they’re just not that interested. Those are the men you want to avoid, and rather than continuing to initiate conversations or ask them out, you should just unmatch/move on.

My BF (who I met on a dating app) initiated conversations, asked thoughtful questions, asked me out, and planned a really thoughtful date. You want to focus on those guys who are actually into you. [/quote]

Seems it is okay for some of the posters on here. They want to play hard to get, say no, and see if he will still come after them. They want to play cat and mouse. Seems that is what gets them going. A guy who won't respect their boundaries because he wants them so badly he is willing to do anything to get to them no matter where they try to run. They want a guy who is a walking red flag because they are walking red flags. Then he turns out to be an @sshole - so shocking.

Initiating conversations or asking thoughtful questions has nothing to do with wanting to be chased. When someone is chasing you - you are running away.  I think adults playing games ad running away and wanting to be chased is ridiculous but as long as the men who like to chase and the women who want to be chased find each other - good for them - they can have their toxic relationship, they deserve it. This is why you see women complaining on here about men but then you see posts like this were they are clearly 50% or more responsible for the toxicity and issues because they bring on themselves with nonsense.[/quote]

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