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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn’t ask if I’d done something wrong.  Minimal chance you did and don’t know.  It seems she knows you’d be a valuable friend if she was going through something personal, so that door remains open.  Most I would do would be to connect again and leave it in her court.  Something like “Miss seeing you around, but life is so much different without the boys around, huh!.  I’m always up for coffee if life gets less busy.  Give me a buzz anytime.” [/quote]

This is a good idea [/quote]

I agree with this. I wouldn’t ask if I have done something to offend as I can’t imagine that you wouldn’t have a clue if you had.  I had something similar happen to me with a friend (our kids were friends) and I  noticed her pulling away after the kids stopped hanging out as much. I was shocked because we shared so much outside of the kids, so I wrongly assumed our relationship was not due to convenience.  However, she started  always being busy. I am a firm believer that we prioritize what and who we want to. So I gave her space, lowered my expectations and rearranged the importance of our friendship in my heart. It was hard. I grieved the past friendship but in doing so it helped me not to stress about the current status of the friendship and it kept us in each other’s lives. I am almost certain that had I said anything (confronted her) we would be friends who only communicate when we happen upon each other every blue moon.  We went from chatting and texting 2-3 times a day, to reaching out once a week, to now every couple of weeks or so we will check in with one another. We don’t share as many hard/personal things with each other but we both know that we can count on each other.

Also out of curiosity, has your son accomplished more than her son? (Better college or scholarship etc) Sometimes, people can’t handle when they aren’t on top. [/quote]

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