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[quote=Anonymous]To answer the OPs questions, it really depends on the intensity of the person you are going low contact with and how your kids feel. We have a crazy aunt who is truly a narcissistic , emotionally stunted nut case. We tried low contact but that didn’t work as she only intensified her crazy towards us because we lived close enough to her.

Our cousins live several hours away. They simply don’t return calls and keep hush about any event or party going on. She did try an unannounced pop in with SIL once but SIL quickly told her they were getting ready to leave for the weekend. She quickly packed up the kids stuff, loaded up the car and left for her in laws house which was nearby deflecting aunts attempts to tag along. Aunt had to drive back another 4 hours so that fixed that problem for SIL.

We live very close and there is very little cost to the aunt for her bad behavior. No matter what we tried, politely explaining, grey rock, being direct she constantly kept badgering the kids, showing up at our house and throwing nasty fits when we said no. We had to block her on the kids phone. We never answer the door when she shows up. We never respond when she tries texting from a different number or emailing from a different account. Having her out of our lives is a joy and relief!

For your teenagers, block her on their phones or simply tell your teens it’s fine to block her. They know how to do this. If she isn’t going to intensely pursue your family, then keep things very arms length. Send a Christmas and birthday card. Be polite if you see her at family events. If you feel you must see her, take her out to lunch. Bring cash so if you need to get up and leave you can take care of the bill. Give the waiter a tip on the way out if you think she’ll stiff them. [/quote]

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