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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of these people may be closed off because they don't really want to talk about their personal lives. Complex, afraid of judgment, etc. I think people with very straightforward/ approved lives (eg married with kids living in a nice suburb) have an easier time bringing their "whole selves" to work and seeming more open.[/quote]

+1. Even just something like "what did you do over the weekend?" is not a question everyone is going to want to answer.[/quote]

Yes, and it doesn't have to be for negative reasons. People use information about your vacation choices, sports interest, marital status, health issues, church involvement, etc. to build a simplistic story about you, and their assumptions can hurt you professionally. [/quote]

For this reason I never talked about my kids or family life.
I have learned that most of the women in my profession (architecture) are unmarried and have no kids or they are the main breadwinner. The female bosses I have had were childless and too old to try. So I clam up.[/quote]

Responder above -  basically the hiring manager or my boss would know that I have kids but if I talk about it too much it undermines my sense of duty to my job amongst my colleagues, especially during the years I worked part-time.

I noticed the inverse amongst women who had kids and were the main breadwinner. They talked about their kids constantly but rarely saw them because they were in office all the time. Amongst women like that I definitely clammed up. They were envious that I negotiated a part- time arrangement and had an earning spouse as well.
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