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[quote=Anonymous]I can only offer some anecdotes. Five years ago, I joined one of the ‘friend making’ groups frequently recommended (think book club/church group) and although I’d consider the women I’ve met ‘friends’, I think I hang out with the group outside the ‘club’ maybe 1-2x a year and haven’t made any close friends. Here’s what I’ve noticed:

1. This area is very transient. I am the only original member left in the group; every year at least three people leave and three people enter. 
2. People are busy and don’t prioritize relationships. We’re lucky to get half the group at each meeting, and most of the cancellations are for pretty lame reasons. There are some members who literally attend once every 3-4 months (club meets biweekly). No one in the group has children and most are single, so it’s not a childcare situation, people just prioritize other things. 
3. People in this are generally competitive and see each other as competition versus friends. Most conversations are a pissing match over jobs, vacations, etc. [/quote]

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