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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a dysfunctional marriage, so this isn't advice, but we have very little financial transparency.  I do have a credit monitor set up for my spouse, and I check it regularly, given circumstances similar to what OP described.  DH spends too much money on his family of origin -  he's a total enabler with a savior complex.  Fortunately, he's a high earner, but even still, I am significantly more liquid than he is, and I have more investible assets because I'm not an idiot with money like he is.  He's going to be broke, living off Social Security and not much in RMDs in retirement, and he knows I won't bail him out for any personal spending.  We file taxes separately because early in our marriage, he underwithheld, and our tax liability was higher than my annual salary, so I have not filed with him since. We don't talk about our investment accounts (I have an idea what he has in his retirement account due to statements he left lying around - it's fine, but won't support his lifestyle, so he may never retire).  I wouldn't care if he got a $150,000 inheritance and spent it, though.  I only worry about debt and whether we can afford our living expenses from our joint checking account.  I have done well on my own, and he has no access to my accounts.  I've saved enough for the kid to go wherever they want for college, and he also has no access to those accounts, nor is he the successor owner if I die (I used someone I trust for that).  I would've preferred a trusting marriage with full transparency where all money is pooled, but unfortunately, that doesn't work for us. [/quote]

Half of your money is his no matter what.  You realize that, right?[/quote]

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