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[quote=Anonymous]One of my kids, who was later diagnosed with anxiety, would have chosen physical contact over almost any other activity as a toddler and preschooler.  He always wanted to nurse, or be held, or to sit on my lap.  He got lots of snuggles and physical affection, but he also got told "No more snuggles, it's time to lie down and go to sleep", or "OK, it's time to play.  I can push you on the swings, or we can climb on the climber together", or "I'm going to go cook now, you can play with your trains or I can set you up to 'wash dishes' at the sink."

My other kid didn't need that at all.  The difference was clear from very early infancy.  If I was holding him he was always wiggling to get down and move, and required a lot of chasing.  If he asked for physical affection he always got it, and I often offered when he wasn't asking, but he still got a small percentage of the physical affection his brother got.

I think if your kid is like my younger kid, or like my nieces and nephews who are more in the middle, it's hard to imagine a kid who needs help to become independent.  [/quote]

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