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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for all the advice. We are currently looking for a new tutor and encourage her to talk to her math teacher who seems like a very nice lady. She is planning on going to school in Europe since she has a citizenship in one of the countries but DH and I agree that grades are still extremely important. As for sports and clubs she has joined a couple the first few weeks but stopped going because she didn’t feel like it. She keeps saying she wants her old life back and I feel so bad because she can’t.[/quote]

Which country? I'm French. It's complicated to get into French undergrad without a Baccalaureat if you are a French citizen. Other countries have different requirements. A lot of EU universities require good grades and test scores, and I don't think any are interested in extra-curriculars. In short, being a good candidate for foreign unis who look at grades and test scores requires focusing on academics, whereas being a good candidate for US colleges requires doing a lot outside of school. Except for the kids who are good at everything, you almost have to decide beforehand where you want to focus your efforts.

You're going to have to think this through, OP. It's not easy to leave at 17/18 and move far away from family, even if it's to a country that one knows. Especially if at 14, she's all in shock over a high school transition. Non-US universities are also "real universities", in that there is absolutely no hand-holding, contrary to American colleges which are just extensions of high school. She doesn't sound like the best candidate for a trans-Atlantic move in 4 years.

My oldest looked at universities abroad, particularly France and Canada, but opted for a US one, closer to home. He did study abroad in Paris, our home city, and it went great. He wasn't the sort to just hop the pond at 18 and live it up independently. Know your kid before making grand plans, OP, especially considering that the entire high school strategy changes based on foreign vs American applications...

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Thank you for the feedback! Unfortunately as a European family we didnt know how expensive these colleges were so we didn’t save up and won’t be able to afford the college tuitions in the US for all our kids. We do have family in Europe who she would be staying with or we would move there ourselves though [b]I know it is a bit too early to think about.[/b] [/quote]

PP you replied to. Not at all. You all need to plan for this now. One of my friends is also in the same predicament, and belatedly realized that her oldest was not in good shape to attend university in Europe. Her grades weren't good enough for the unis she wanted in that country, so they thought, might as well try some colleges here. Her kid could not get into the in-state flagship, and she was accepted to a decent college out of state. 50K a year. Her parents are actively trying to get her transferred to the in-state flaghip to lower costs, or to get her to graduate early from the out of state college.

It can get very complicated and very expensive if you don't plan, OP. You need specific university names in your home country, admissions requirements for students living abroad under a different school system, and then you can see whether her math grades will tank her or not.

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