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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for all the advice. We are currently looking for a new tutor and encourage her to talk to her math teacher who seems like a very nice lady. She is planning on going to school in Europe since she has a citizenship in one of the countries but DH and I agree that grades are still extremely important. As for sports and clubs she has joined a couple the first few weeks but stopped going because she didn’t feel like it. She keeps saying she wants her old life back and I feel so bad because she can’t.[/quote]

Look into what is needed to attend European colleges. Lots of kids are caught off guard by the requirements and the fact that acceptances are conditional. She will need strong grades and extra curricular activities to attend most European colleges. And if she is strugglingto adjust from MS to HS she is going to really struggle to adjust to college in a different country.

Your task is to help her find a path forward at her new school. You need to help her understand that transition is hard. It is great to validate that she misses her MS experience, it sounds like she had a great one, and then help her focus on the work she needs to do to have a similar HS experience. What can she do to find friends? In MS you did these activities and that helped you find friends. You need to do the same thing in HS. You said she enjoyed basketball in MS, so trying out for the basketball team is important in HS. It will help her meet kids who share an enjoyment of basketball. What clubs did she do in MS? She should look for similar clubs in HS. What is it that she wishes she had tried in MS but didn’t? Find that club in HS.

She can be sad that her friends are in different places but still try and get a footing in her new place. The more she meets new people, the easier it will be but those first steps are hard.

And get a tutor for her in math or look at mathnasium. She needs help shoring up basic skills it sounds like. She doesn’t have to do the highest track in math if that has been a struggle. It is ok to do regular math or honors math. [/quote]

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