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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, it goes away. I caught my xH cheating multiple times and he always denied everything.

You have to let go of the idea that he'll confess, admit he was wrong, and fall to his knees sobbing for what he did to you. He won't. Not because you don't deserve it, but because cheaters don't have the same mentality as you and I. They don't care about hurting people. They don't care about right and wrong. They only care about what makes them look good and feel good. That's a them issue, not a you issue.

What *did* help me with closure was literally just moving on like I didn't care. The biggest blow to their ego is to feel like they aren't important. Overall I just keep a very breezy, casual attitude with xH, like the cheating and divorce didn't impact me at all. Cheaters don't feel remorse for hurting you, they only respond to ego validation, and I don't give any by showing bitterness, anger, or resentment. The one time xH did show "remorse" (which was really just fishing for validation that I still had some sort of feelings), I just waved it off with "no, you were right! I know we're both WAY happier now!"

Also, glow up and get an upgrade. I got in shape, updated my wardrobe, and got some cosmetic work done. I now have a BF who is 15 years younger than xH, makes twice his salary, is smoking hot, and is an all around really, really great man. [/quote]

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