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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One way to look at it is if both your kids had done the same thing they'd probably worsen each other's chances if they applied to the same colleges.  Because then both would have been less unique.

Also your kids did get more breathing room to be kids.  So many kids and adults are mentally unhealthy now.  I think it's best to start life with a little less pressure.  It's an endurance race.[/quote]

Well, pressure is better than ruminating.  Nice dig at the other family, but so far the OP looks like an unhealthy one.[/quote]

PP.  You're basically calling my values a dig at other people.  Not at all.  People can make different choices about how to live life.  I see evidence that more pressured and less pressured kids end up with the same outcomes.  Also, it's pretty well documented that there is an adolescent mental health crisis and it is a recognized phenomenon at top schools.

Some kids have the temperament to follow a templated life and/or to handle lots of pressure.  Just like some people are Olympic-level athletes.  Others can't handle it.

My parenting philosophy has been shaped by knowing the brother of a post-senior-year of high school suicide victim.  A kid from the DMV on his way to his parents' Ivy.  That was years before I had kids.  The situation made a strong impression on me.[/quote]

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