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[quote=Anonymous]My parents moved when I was in college. The new house had a bedroom for my brother with all his stuff. There was a shared room for my sister and I , but it was not our things- just bland decor. My sister had been out of college for a few years and was fine with it. She already had a place to move her things. But for me it felt very much like I was not welcome to come home for more than a few days. All my things were boxed up and I was asked to purge a lot of it. It wasn’t a home for me. It forced me to launch pretty quickly.

It worked out fine. I never “needed” to go home for an extended time. I have a great relationship with my parents, but I wish they had waited until I felt more settled on my own. I don’t know why they felt the need to move when they did. It very much felt like they were just really excited to start their post-kids in the house life. Which is sort of weird when you are the kid. And that age, when you are figuring out who you are and where you want to be… it just felt like they abruptly forced me to grow up. (I know that is a bit of a selfish take… but Just sharing how I felt… good or bad… that is my experience.)

So it’s now really important to me to not move when my kids are that age. There are so many changes and new adjustments kids have to make. I know how unsettled it made me feel to know that I really didn’t have that safe comforting space to go home to. I don’t know want to do that to my kids if I don’t have to.

Bare minimum. My kids will have a room, with their things, space to store their childhood memorabilia until they are ready to sort through it. I don’t want it to ever appear like I have purged my life of them or forced them out before they were ready to let go.[/quote]

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