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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you a SAHM? [/quote]

Op here - no I work full time. And yes I realize for the most part my kids are easy but kids, especially newborns through toddler years are all sort of the same. They demand a lot and are physically taxing.

Again I would never say this out loud (hence the anonymous board post) but I still think. I have done solo trips and outings with my kids since they were babies. [/quote]

Nope, kids are not "mostly the same" at those ages. And some kids can be emotionally draining at those ages, not just physically taxing, it's just that yours were not.

Also sometimes people are dealing with private dramas of which you know nothing. Both my DH and I had family crises within the first year of becoming parents -- his dad was diagnosed with late stage cancer and my brother got divorced, which somehow led to my mom becoming deeply depressed. So in that first year, we were taking care of a baby and adjusting to being parents, but DH was playing therapist to his parents and dealing with his own grief, I was essentially losing a close family I'd really cared about (my SIL) to a contentious divorce, and my mom was turning to me for emotional support. Then shortly after our DC was born, a childhood friend of my DH committed suicide. DH's dad then died about a year later, and then Covid happened.

We wound up with just one child and were definitely overwhelmed a lot those first few years. Plenty of people I know have no idea about the extent of what we dealt with at that time and likely thought we seemed pathetically overwhelmed with "just" one child. Those people are ignorant, and I try not to hold it against them.

You don't know what goes on in other people's lives.[/quote]

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